How to Use a Dildo
for the First Time

Mon, Feb 10, 2025

If you're considering using a dildo for the first time, it's important to approach the experience with openness, patience, and curiosity. Dildos are a popular sex toy used for solo exploration or during intimacy with a partner.

Whether you're new to sex toys or just want to add a new dimension to your pleasure, this guide will walk you through everything you need to know about using a dildo for the first time.

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Choose the Right Dildo

Before you dive into using a dildo, it's essential to pick one that feels right for your body and experience level. Dildos come in various sizes, shapes, materials, and features, so it’s important to consider what will feel most comfortable for you.

Material: Look for a dildo made from body-safe materials such as silicone, glass, or stainless steel. These are non-porous, easy to clean, and safe for intimate use.

Size: If youre a beginner, opt for a smaller, softer dildo. Starting with a moderate size will help your body adjust and prevent discomfort. Larger dildos can be great for advanced users, but they may feel overwhelming if you're just starting out.

Shape: Some have curved shafts or textured surfaces designed for G-spot or prostate stimulation. If you're curious about specific types of stimulation, try one with a slight curve to explore your body's reactions.

Preparation is Key

It's very important to have a good experience for the first time. Preparation not only makes the experience more comfortable but also helps you relax and enjoy it.

Clean Your Toy: Remember clean it with warm water and unscented soap or a specialized toy cleaner before using a dildo. This ensures there’s no irritating residue or bacteria in each use.

Lubrication: It’s your best friend when using any sex toy, especially a dildo. Use a water-based lubricant to help the toy glide smoothly and reduce friction. Click to learn more>>How to Choose the Right Lubricant.

Start Slow & Relax

For your first time, it's important to take things slow. Whether you're using the dildo for vaginal or anal exploration, patience is key.

Find a Comfortable Space: Choose a place where you feel safe, comfortable, and relaxed. Dim the lights, play some soothing music, or take a warm bath beforehand to set the mood.

Take Your Time: Don't rush the experience. Start by exploring your body with your hands to become familiar with your own pleasure zones. This will help you ease into the sensation of using a dildo.

Breathe and Relax: Focus on your breathing and relax your body. Tension or anxiety can make the experience less enjoyable, so take it slow and enjoy the journey.

How to Insert

Once you feel ready, it's time to insert the dildo. How you do this will depend on whether you’re using it vaginally or anally. Here's a step-by-step for both:

For Vaginal Use:

Get into a Comfortable Position:

You can try lying on your back, sitting, or even standing, whatever feels most comfortable for you.

Apply Lubricant:

Generously apply lube to both your body and the dildo.

Slow Insertion:

Gently insert the dildo into your vagina, starting with just the tip. Relax your muscles as you slowly push the toy inside. If it feels uncomfortable, stop and try adjusting the angle or adding more lubricant.

Explore the Sensation:

Once the dildo is fully inserted, you can experiment with different motions—slow thrusts, circles, or simply holding it in place to feel the pressure. Try different angles to see what feels best.

For Anal Use:

Preparation:

If you're using a dildo for anal play, it's essential to start with a toy that has a flared base or handle to prevent it from slipping inside the body. Always start with a smaller size to avoid discomfort.

Positioning:

Find a comfortable position that allows you to relax your body. Many people find it easiest to start on their side or on hands and knees.

Lubricate Generously:

Apply plenty of lube, both to the anus and the toy. Anal play requires more lubrication than vaginal play.

Slow & Gentle Insertion:

Gently insert the dildo, starting with the tip and gradually easing it in. If you experience any discomfort or resistance, stop and allow your body to adjust. Go at your own pace, and always listen to your body.

Experiment with Different Techniques

Once you're comfortable with the basics, experiment with different techniques to discover what works best for you:

Vary the Speed & Depth: Start slow, but don’t be afraid to experiment with faster thrusts or deeper penetration if it feels good. Change the pace and pressure until you find what feels most pleasurable.

Use It During Sex: If you have a partner, you can also use the dildo during partnered sex for additional stimulation. Try incorporating it during foreplay or while engaging in other forms of sexual activity.

Incorporate Other Toys: Some people enjoy combining dildos with other toys, such as vibrators or clitoral stimulators, for a multi-layered experience. >>A Guide to Choosing Your Vibrator.

Aftercare & Hygiene

After you've finished using the dildo, it's important to clean both the toy and yourself:

Clean the Toy: Wash your dildo thoroughly with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner. Make sure it's completely dry before storing it.

Hygiene for Your Body: Clean yourself with water and a gentle cleanser. If you used anal play, consider doing a gentle rinse to ensure you’re clean and comfortable.

Conclusion

Using a dildo for the first time can be a fun, exciting, and empowering experience. By choosing the right toy, taking your time, and exploring what feels best for you, you can enjoy an intimate and fulfilling journey of self-discovery.

Whether you’re using it for sexual pleasure, pelvic health, or just to explore, the key is to embrace the experience with an open mind and body. Enjoy the ride, and remember that your pleasure and comfort are the top priorities.

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thank you for choosing DAZINER—your trusted partner in pleasure.